Short Men & Dating: 7 Honest Opinions from South African Women
Does Height Really Matter in Dating? South African Women Weigh In
The debate about men’s height in dating never seems to fade—from viral “short king” memes to lingering stereotypes about women’s preferences. But how much does height actually influence attraction? We asked seven South African women for their candid perspectives, and their answers reveal a nuanced reality.
The Verdict: It’s Complicated
- “Height isn’t everything” – Phindi, 27
“There are so many factors in choosing a partner. Confidence and emotional maturity matter way more to me than centimeters.” - “Short men are a no for me” – Tammy, 30
“I’ve always preferred taller guys. It’s just my type—no apology needed.” - “It’s about my own insecurities” – Foyinsola, 25
“Being with a shorter guy sometimes triggers my confidence issues. But I’m working on separating that from his worth.” - “Never again!” – June, 33
“I dated a shorter guy once. Let’s just say… it wasn’t just his height that fell short. laughs” - “Short men have it tougher” – Yvonne, 28
“Society makes shorter guys overcompensate—be fitter, richer, funnier. That pressure isn’t fair.”
What Does the Data Say?
A 2024 Dating.com study of 10,000 singles found:
- 68% of women are open to dating shorter men.
- 81% would date someone their own height.
The Psychology Behind Height Preferences
Evolutionary psychology suggests some associate height with protection, but modern dating emphasizes compatibility over stereotypes. As gender roles shift, so do preferences—many women prioritize confidence, humor, and emotional connection.
Final Takeaway
While height might be a factor for some, it’s rarely the deciding factor. As Phindi put it: “Connection isn’t measured in centimeters.”
Your Turn:
Are you team “Height doesn’t matter” or do you have a strong preference? Share your thoughts in the comments!